“…some I had to leave behind. My brother, I’m still sorry!”
It seemed like it was barely overnight when the nation heard a particular song on the radio that cut them to their heart. And before we had a chance to ease into it, Lukas Graham’s 7 Years was on every station, as well as in all our hearts. If you have not heard it, let me catch you up real quick. The track is a simple and soulful look at a young kid at the small age of 7 years old who is receiving advice from his parents, but within the blink of an eye we see that his life literally flashes before his eyes, until he is at the age of 60. The song is paralleling the quickness, simplicity, and difficulties of life, and it has a knack for making the listener feel empathetic towards the stirring emotions. It was this weekend, however, when my sister pointed out a part that really got to her.
In the scene that Graham discusses his “30 something” years, he relates the admission that at some point you find that you have left many of your loved friends/buddies from your younger years behind. We talked about that while neither of us are quite 30, one does start realizing that life seems to rip you apart from people that at one point you tried to hold so dear. While for some strange reason the prolonged years seem to place an unbreakable separation between you, whether it was intended or not. It’s easy to get chocked up, it is easy to remember the days of the past, it is even easy to wish it would all be the same as it used to be. But is that really our best option?
While the question I posed may or may not be true for you and your particular “case” (if you will). I do think that at some point we all face the fact, that maybe looking to the past isn’t as beneficial as we desperately hoped. A few points could be gleaned. One we mentioned was that the years when you find yourself leaving behind many friends, you depart realizing that there are some relationships that are stronger than all. Proverbs 18:24 perfectly describes that having too many distant friends is not nearly as crucial as having a few meaningful friends.
But one of the more sever points I think we can make from this thought is that sometimes it is a necessity to leave the past in order to fully benefit from the future. You see, whether we are in a good place or not, a place where we are in a pleasing relationship with God or not, the past never seems to have the answers. Sure, we may need to return to better influences, we may need to learn from the choices we’ve made. But as a rule, we know that by looking back too often, we sure won’t make many achievements. Paul wrote to the Philippian church that, “Brethren, I do not regard myself as having laid hold of it yet; but one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and reaching forward to what lies ahead, I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.” (vs. 13-14).
We need to understand that there will be times we reminisce about the past, there will be times we fondly talk about how things used to be, we may even return to old friends and towns we’ve had the privilege of coming face to face with. There is nothing wrong with loving the past, but we need to foremost embrace the future. That is where we can embark to make ourselves better individuals (not perfect, but better), where we can change someone else’s future by providing a path for others to follow, where we can make the most of the relationships and the circumstances we now face, and ultimately, where we can continue to pursue our only Savior, until the day we meet Him.
P.S. a friend recommended Weezer’s new album to me TODAY. And right off the bat, The Wind and The Sail is quite catchy!